PREMATURE ejaculation is a very common situation, and can be a source of embarrassment – but there is nothing to be ashamed of.
Here are some tips to making sex last longer and treatment available for those who require it…
A third of men experience premature ejaculation and it is extremely common
Don’t be ashamed
The first thing to understand is that most men want to last longer in bed and there’s nothing to be ashamed of it you find it difficult. Penises just register pleasure differently than vulvas do, and they respond differently to touch. Arousal and erections often go together for men. So when your penis is hard, you feel ready and eager to go. Women, meanwhile, need more time for their genitals to get “online.” Even if she’s excited, it may take ten to twenty minutes for her body to catch up with her desire.
Here are some things to try so you can last longer to make sure everyone is satisfied:
Develop Your PC Muscles
Your pelvic floor muscles are responsible for cutting off the orgasmic response. The more strength you have in these muscles, the better. To practice: next time you’re peeing, try to cut off the flow of urine. Then, sloooowly release the flow. Repeat this a few times until your bladder is empty. It’s common for these muscles to feel fatigued after this exercise. Like any muscle tone development, avoid overdoing it. But the more adept you become at clenching these muscles at will, the easier it will become to delay your orgasm.
Though women take longer to get ready for penetration, that doesn’t mean there’s nothing else you can do. Satisfying your partner with your fingers and/or oral sex is a wonderful way to make sure she’s satisfied even before penetration. Study up on cunnilingus techniques so that you can confidently assist your partner to orgasm without having to penetrate at all. Our coaches have some excellent cunnilingus techniques and can help you learn how to last longer in bed too. It’ll expand sexual satisfaction and can help you develop confidence as a lover.
Your Week By Week Training Schedule
There’s a lot here for you to take in. And in truth, to understand this stuff 100% you’ll need to try it and experience it for yourself.
So next I’m going to walk you through what a 4 week training schedule will cover should you decide to follow it. Again this is all taken from my Ejaculation Freedom program.
Training Week 1
Week 1 is all about showing you how your ejaculatory system works and how you will develop skills to control it at each stage of arousal. We’ll get you breathing correctly, and show you how to put your mind in an optimal state, plus you’ll be learning a stack of instant cool down methods for you to keep up your sleeve. You’ll get started on ejaculatory training.
- All about Premature Ejaculation (What it is, what causes it, and how you will fix it)
- Instant cool down methods
- Visualization and meditative techniques
- Arousal Levels – understanding, reading and controlling them
- Getting into a prime mental state before sex
- Intro to Turn-backs and edging techniques
- Getting started with ejaculatory training
Training Week 2
Now we switch it up a notch with more intense training. By the end of the week you’ll be able to isolate and control individual ejaculatory muscles and will be achieving turn-backs during sex.
- Reading your body’s signals and taking the RIGHT action
- The best sexual positions and techniques and when to use them
- Advanced instant cool down methods
- How to achieve multiple turn backs during sex (without stopping)
- Control Kegels and how to relax your PC muscle
- Ejaculatory training level 2
Training Week 3
Here’s where we double down on training. This is were my clients see all these new skills working together and it’s were you’ll reach a tipping point and truly know that premature ejaculation is not part of you or something you are stuck with. It’s a great feeling and will set you up for the final week of the program.
- Advanced control Kegels
- Advanced edging and turn-back techniques (to use during sex)
- Advanced sexual techniques and when to use them
- Stopping your ejaculatory reflex
- Advanced ejaculatory training
- Combo techniques – get everything working together
Training Week 4
It’s important for me to send you out the door at the end of the 4 weeks of training with the skills, techniques and mindset to last as long as you choose. Here’s where we’ll cover the skills that will get you there. This is what I call Ejaculation Freedom. It’s a great feeling, and you are going to love it.
- Getting in the zone every time (a state of flow)
- Going beyond 20 minutes
- Lasting during hard, pounding sex sessions (you will love this)
- Sexual mastery
- Making the most of your new found stamina
And that’s it. Mark the date from today, and imagine how good you will be feeling in just 4 weeks if you start training right now.
What causes premature ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is the name given when a man ejaculates either before, or a very short time after, entering the vagina.
It's a major concern for many blokes, with 30 per cent of lads reporting to have been affected by the condition last year.
According to the NHS, a number of psychological and physical factors can cause premature ejaculation.
Physical reasons include prostate problems, thyroid problems and recreational drugs.
Experts have revealed that men with bigger bellies last longer in bed
Meanwhile psychological problems include depression, stress, relationship problems or anxiety about sexual performance.
A study has shown that the size of a man's stomach may well be a better indicator of how long he can keep it going in the sack.
The research comes from scientists at Erciyes University in Turkey, who now believe that larger men make better lovers because they've got more sexual stamina.
The researchers studied 200 men; comparing their body mass index (BMI) to their sexual performance.
Interestingly, the result showed that fatter men with bigger bellies lasted longer in bed then their svelte counterparts.
In fact, men with visible belly fat and a higher BMI could get down to it for an average 7.3 minutes, while slimmer men lasted an average of 1.8 minutes in the sack and were more likely to suffer from premature ejaculation.
The scientists thought that the reason behind larger lads lasting longer is that they have higher levels of the female sex hormone oestradiol, which may disrupt the body's chemical balance and inhibits them from climaxing for longer.
How can you treat premature ejaculation?
There are a number of things you can do before seeking professional help.
According to the NHS, it can sometimes help to:
- masturbate an hour or two before having sex
- use a thick condom to help decrease sensation
- take a deep breath to briefly shut down the ejaculatory reflex (an automatic reflex of the body during which ejaculation occurs)
- have sex with your partner on top (to allow them to pull away when you are close to ejaculating)
- take breaks during sex and think about something boring
If you do require treatment, this can be in the form of behavioural techniques, topical anaesthetics, counselling or medication.
A doctor may order blood tests to check the levels of testosterone, and you may be referred to a urologist or sexual dysfunction specialist.
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