That’s the big question isn’t it? You like someone and you’d love to know if you have any chance with this person. But it’s hard to tell what he or she thinks of you. How can you find out?
Before we think of some strategies, let’s consider first the whole liking thing. People like others whom they know (of course!) and the better they know a person the more possible it is that they’ll feel some sort of bond or affection for them. So the way to develop the potential for being liked by a particular person is to spend more time with him or her, doing things that friends might do without trying to force the activities into things that boyfriends-and-girlfriends might do.
So help the person you like to like you back by working together on the same project, being part of the same club, riding the same school bus, and other, casual, incidental activities that give a friendship bond a chance to grow. There’s no need to jump right away into boyfriend-girlfriend activities like going to the movies or even to the mall. Keep it casual.
At the same time, don’t act like a stalker. Take advantage of opportunities to work together on something with the person you like without obsessing over ways to be near this person in everything he or she does. Let your person see you interacting with other people in the same group or activity, since that’s how he or she will find out how nice you are. Set out to develop a friendship instead of trying to snag a romantic partner.
Once you and your person have more time together, the answer to the question of whether he or she likes you might become obvious. If you enjoy each other’s company and have a good time doing whatever you’re doing, then your friend probably views you as a friend too and likes you. You’ll probably be able to tell.
If you want this friendship to develop into feelings with more romantic potential, then, once you and your friend are behaving like friends in mutual activities, ask him or her to do something with you that’s extra, like going to the library together or stopping by your locker to fetch something on your way out of school. If your friend agrees, then you’re moving closer to “like.”
You can then take things a step further, by asking your friend on a casual date, maybe going with you to a fun event where there will be lots of other people you both know. Again, if he or she accepts, then you can be more certain that the two of you are developing a bond.
When you feel comfortable asking, you can finally ask your friend if he or she likes you. Just ask. Wait until you and your friend have spent plenty of time together, doing things that you both care about or enjoy, and at least a basic friendship has developed. If your feelings for him or her are growing stronger, just ask if your friend feels the same way.
Try to avoid asking your other friends if this person likes you. How will they know if you don’t already? Avoid sending anonymous notes or searching your friend’s social media posts for clues. If you want to know if someone likes you and if you have good reason to believe that this is possible, from your prior good times together, then the sensible thing to do is ask.
Your friend – and you know by now that this person is a friend – will at least be flattered that you asked. If he or she likes you but doesn’t like you, romantically, that doesn’t need to destroy the ordinary friendship that you share. There’s no need for either of you to feel embarrassed by the question or embarrassed by a negative answer. And then you’ll know.
Start slowly. Keep things casual. Get to know the person you like in everyday situations. See what develops. You’ll enjoy yourself and you’ll meet lots of other great people at the same time.
His Reactions to The Things You Do
You can often find out if a guy likes you as more than just a friend if he reacts to certain things that you do. All you have to do is do these things and see how he reacts to find out how much he is into you.
15. He will be jealous when you hint there is another guy
For this, you need to be very subtle. If you overdo it, you might ruin your relationship with this guy. But in a lot of cases, knowing that there is another guy in the picture is all the push a guy needs to make a move.
To see his reaction, just tell him about another guy you met. Say something like,
“There is this guy in the class who wanted to hang out with me. My girlfriends think he is very cute.”
You don’t want to tell him directly that you like the guy. You just want to insinuate that a good-looking guy is into you. If he likes you he will do one of the following things.
- Get Angry
- Shut down and it may look like something is bothering him
- Ask you a lot of questions about the other guy
- Ask to see a picture of that guy
- Ask you if you like him in non-friendly way’
- Try to make you jealous
If he is not into you, he may do one of the following
- Give you advice on what to do on the date
- Make fun of you like a friend would
- Treat it like normal conversation as if it’s nothing special.
16. He tries to protect you from the evils in the world
If a guy really likes you, then he will try to protect you from danger or any bad things in the world. I am not saying he will go into battle for you. Or get into a fist fight with a hooligan. But he will do his best to keep you safe from little things that may cause you harm.
To do this, you should figure out something that you know may harm you. And speak to him about it.
“There is one guy at work who creeps me out. I think he is stalking me.”
Now any decent person will be concerned for your safety if you say something like that. But if a guy is into you, his reaction is going to be a little more than that.
He will get very concerned about your safety. He will ask you questions. He will offer to help. And he might even look worried about you. He may even call you the next day to know if you reached home safely.
17. He tries to fix things in your life
This will only be the case if a guy really really likes you. And he sees you as a long term partner. He will try fix the problems in your life as if they are his own. He will offer solutions and he will invest a lot of mental energy trying to find a solution for them.
To do this, simply talk to him about a problem you have in your life. Make sure it’s not a general problem. It should be something personal and something that you would only share with someone you can trust.
“My sister and my mom are fighting every day, and it makes it hard to study. I can’t concentrate when they are shouting at the top of their lungs. I am scared I won’t pass the exams because of this and won’t get into a good school.”
If your ex is into you, he will offer a solution to your problems. His mind will start running super fast trying to find the best solution. He will see damsel in distress and if he is into you, he will want to be your knight in shining armor.
What to do if he is likes you?
If a guy likes you, you need to let him know that you like him as well. A lot of shy guys are scared to make the first move. So, if you think he likes you, go up to him and ask him out. Say something like, “Hey, want to go for coffee after work/school?”
On the date, hold his hand. That’s the best signal to let him know that you like him too. And if he is still oblivious, well congratulation, you have managed to find the most socially clueless guy on the plant and you should comment below and tell me all about him. We will give you an internet trophy.