If you want to know how to tell if a guy likes you, allow me to give you a little advice: you’re probably overthinking it.
Want to know how to tell if a guy likes you? This probably won’t happen.
You’re looking for grand gestures.
You want him to show up at your door with a dozen red roses.
You want him to call you his girlfriend after just one date.
You want him to introduce you to his mom.
You want him to write a song about you, expounding on your beauty and wit.
I can tell you’ve been watching a lot of rom-com movies, and that’s a shame. I hate how pop culture gives women a skewed idea of what romance is like.
Unfortunately, we guys rarely make such large romantic efforts. You know who writes those scenes in romantic movies?
Yep. Not men. We wouldn’t even think about running across a field of flowers so you can leap into our arms. It’s just not how we operate.
And the truth is: we don’t need to be Mr. Romantic for you to know if a guy likes you. We tell you that we like you in subtle ways.
You just have to pay attention to know how to tell if a guy likes you. But don’t worry; I’m about to give you the 411 on what to look for as signs he does.
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A man’s body language tells you he’s into you.
One of the best ways to tell if a guy likes you is to pay attention to what he does with his body when he’s around you. Body language has scientifically been proven to communicate attraction.
In a study by Vacharkulksemsuk and associates, speed daters who used expansive body language (like widespread limbs or a stretched torso) were 76% more likely to be chosen for a date.
Clearly, body language says something to a person you’re interested in. No words needed.
So when you’re with your guy, pay attention to how his body is positioned. Does he lean in toward you when you talk, as if hanging on your every word? Does he mirror you, meaning if you, for example, cross your legs, he also crosses his?
If you want to know how to tell if a man likes you, see if his feet are pointing in your direction. Generally, when there is attraction or interest, he will point his body toward you.
On the other hand, his body language can also tell you that he’s not interested. If he crosses his arms while talking to you, or points his body away from you, he may not be interested in you romantically.
Pay attention to what he’s saying with his body language. It may speak volumes about how he feels about you.
1. Endless Questions
If a guy keeps asking you questions, questions, and more questions. He is probably into you. He wants to keep the conversation going on. Or maybe, he wants to know you from the core.
Moreover, see how he behaves, does he take a SPECIAL interest in talking to you or he acts just like a Normal friend? If you can relate yourself with the later, you will probably need some strong hints before concluding.
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3. His Smile
If he smiles at you a lot, it could be another positive sign that he likes you. Some guys tend to smile at every other thing, but that’s a different case.
For example, the guy is shy, but whenever he sees you, he smiles. He smiles not in a way to offend you but to give you a hint that he likes you.
Do pay close attention to his smile and see if he maintains eye contact; it might be a great sign that suggests he is into you.
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5. He asked your number
Until and unless he has a degree in flirting, it is a giant sign that the guy likes you. He asked your number = he wants you! No more questions. A guy won’t ask your number unless he has some important work with you or you can help him in any other manner.
However, this depends on the situation too. If a guy comes to you and asks for your number because that’s the only way he can contact you, that’s an entirely different thing. On the other hand, if he asks for you even if he can meet you daily, it is probably a sign that he likes you. Keep digging for more clues.
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7. Do you have a boyfriend?
If he doesn’t ask you straight, it can be a slightly modified question like “are you seeing anyone” or “do you have a roommate?”. These small questions can help you get a bigger picture of his feelings for you.
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9. He gets Jealous
He gets jealous when you talk to other guys. Of course, he will try to act as if nothing is wrong, but as soon as you turn your face around he will have questions like… “what the heck is that j*** doing here” or “is she taking an interest in that m****f****” popping in his head which can only be heard by his soul.
11. He Teases You
Teasing is a great sign that a guy is into you. A guy would usually never tease a girl if she isn’t one of his closest friends or if he doesn’t like her. It is normal for guys to tease girls to grab their attention. Remember the kindergarten classes when guys used to pull your hairs? They did so, to get your attention.
Teasing is just a grown-up way for boys to get the desired attention from the girls they like. Moreover, if he is trying to make you laugh now and then, he probably likes you.
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13. He helps you out
He helps you more than a friend would. He is ready to do your work even if it is tedious and boring work. If he does so, he likes you more than a friend. After all, who will spend so much time for you if he doesn’t like you? Will anyone? Of course, NO!
15. He Doesn’t Use His Phone When You Are Around
If he doesn’t check his phone while you are around it means that he finds you appealing. He might be paying a lot more attention to you when you’re talking, just so that he can use the details later on in the conversation.
It is just a small clue about how he feels when he is with you. However, remember that little details make up the bigger picture later. Pay attention to everything he does.
17. He Chats With You for Longer Periods
If he messages you as soon as you come online. It is a sign that a guy likes you. However, it can also be that he likes you as a good friend. To draw a far better conclusion, you need to check out how he chats with you and how long the conversation lasts.
See if he starts a flirty conversation or not. If he does, there cannot be any better hints that he likes you. Just stop hunting for clues and make a clear choice — do you like him or not?
19. He Introduces You To His Friends
Why will he introduce you to his friends when he doesn’t like you? He won’t, right? If he does so, it means you mean something to him. Maybe his friends already know that he likes you, but won’t tell you.
If he takes you out to parties where all his guy friends are present, it is a clear sign that he likes you more than a friend.
21. Just Ask him out
Enough is enough, right? Are you tired of wondering if he likes you or not? Well, honestly, the best thing you could do is to ask him charmingly whether he is interested in you or not.
Don’t ask him in a way that makes him nervous; he would probably shy away from saying anything if you did so.
Hope you got your answer on how to tell if a guy likes you.
How To Tell If a Guy Likes You Sign #3: He Makes Eye Contact
A guy who likes you will make eye contact a lot.
Above all, you will know a guy likes you if he maintains eye contact with you. This can happen when you first catch one another’s eyes across the bar as well as on a first date. If he’s got you locked in his sights while you talk, it’s a great sign!
If he is into you, he may sweep your face from right to left with his adoring gaze. He might even lift his eyebrow at you.
However, here’s something interesting: eye contact isn’t the only way to know how to tell if a guy likes you. There are other areas he may look if he’s interested. In a recent scientific study, researchers at Wellesley College and the University of Kansas discovered that both men and women who were romantically interested in someone would stare at that person’s head or chest frequently. If they considered that person just a friend, they looked at feet or legs more.
So before you slap him for looking at your chest (my eyes are up here, buddy), know that this is another sign that he is interested in you romantically.
How To Tell If a Guy Likes You Sign #5: He Smiles A Lot
He will smile at you frequently if he’s into you.
Not only does smiling attract others to you, but it’s also an indicator of attraction.
The next time you’re with the man you’re interested in, notice how often he smiles. Then: what kind of smile is he giving you? Is it a polite smile to just show interest in what you’re saying?
A fake smile that totally doesn’t fool you?
Or a smile — that includes his eyes — that says he’s having a great time and is enjoying his time with you?
Want to get him to smile more? Do more smiling yourself. They’re contagious. I promise.
How To Tell If a Guy Likes You Sign #7: Pay Attention To His Friends
A guy’s friends can give you an indicator of his interest.
First of all, if you’ve met his friends already, this is an excellent sign. That alone indicates that a) they know about you and b) he’s proud to show you off to them.
But maybe you met this guy at the same time that you met his friends. Maybe you already knew them. Either way, they can provide clues for how this man feels about you.
Are they surprised at your presence when you show up with him for events? Or do they greet you comfortably, like they fully expected you to be there?
Do you get the sense that he talks to them about you? Do they say things like you’ve got a real winner with John? Overall, you’re looking for clues that this man is comfortable enough with his bros to talk to them about the lady in his life. You don’t want to be a secret. You want him to be so stunned that a looker like you is interested in him that he shouts it from the rooftops to anyone who will listen.
If you haven’t met his friends yet, tell him you’d like to meet them. Suggest a beer meetup with them and see what he says. If he’s not into you or hasn’t told them about you, he may be hesitant to make plans with them. If a guy likes you, though, he’ll be quick to include you in plans with his closest friends.
How To Tell If a Guy Likes You Sign #9: He Compliments Often
If a man gives compliments, he likes you.
You look fantastic today.
Wow, that dress looks amazing on you.
You’re the funniest woman I ever met.
I have such a good time with you.
Men don’t usually dole out the compliments unless they mean them. If the guy you’re dating is quick to say nice things about you, he’s most likely into you.
Do pay attention to assess whether the compliments are sincere. And watch out that not all the compliments he gives you are about your physical looks. Certainly, it’s nice to hear that he is physically attracted to you, but if he’s not talking about your brain or your wit, you might wonder if all he wants is a fling.
And consider how you take the compliment. Recently, author, social worker, and activist Feminista Jones conducted a social experiment and found out that men don’t like it when you agree with their compliments. They often expect you to demurely blush, lower your eyes, and say, Why, this old thing? It’s what I do my housecleaning in!
What she did was pretty funny, actually. A guy would tell a woman that she had a great body, and she’d reply I know, right?
Needless to say, the unsuspecting men were thrown off by this reaction. So take the compliment. Say thank you. Even if you feel uncomfortable when he tells you you’re beautiful because you don’t agree, accept that he thinks so. Say thanks and move on with your life.
How To Tell If a Guy Likes You Sign #11: He Doesn’t Use His Phone Around You
If he likes you, he’ll put down the phone.
I know, I know. The fact that this is a sign that a guy likes you is a testament to how glued to our mobile phones we all are today.
But phubbing is a real thing. The slang term for “phone snubbing,” it describes how someone can totally ignore you, instead opting to scroll through social media feeds or checking the news or texts on their phone.
It’s insulting. And yet, for many, it is extremely hard to put down the phone and focus on the real, live human in front of us.
But if his phone never leaves his pocket, or even if it sits face down on the table, he is clearly ready to give you his undivided attention. He only does that with people he likes and respects. So count yourself among this exclusive group.
The best thing you can do is to reciprocate. Leave your phone in your purse. You can even compliment him on his self-restraint: Wow! Most guys totally ignore me for their phones. I love that you aren’t glued to yours.
(That also sets a precedent for him to understand that you don’t like it when you get ignored for a phone, in the off chance that he simply hasn’t gotten around to gluing his face to his phone just yet.)
Trust your gut. You’ll know if he likes you.
Look, men aren’t great at communicating that we like you. It’s intimidating, putting ourselves out there. So we make it a little challenging for you to figure out if we are into you.
For that, allow me to apologize for the entire male species.
But if you get out of your head a bit and pay attention, you’ll see that we’re giving off signs that we’re into you. It’s in our body language. In the things we say. In how comfortable we are with you. In how fast we respond to your text or ask you out again.
Sure, some of us are into playing games, and you’ll have to accept that or keep looking for a man who won’t play games to win your affection.
But let me give you this piece of advice: trust your gut. If you’re sure that a guy likes you, he probably is. He might be shy or scared of getting hurt, so he might be slow to make a move.
If you think he’s a guy that’s worth the wait, be a little patient.
And make sure you’re giving off your own signals that you’re into him. Because while in your head you might be gaga for him, you might not be showing that outwardly. So give us a few signs that you’re into us, ladies. It’ll boost our confidence and help us express our own interest better.
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How To Tell If A Guy Likes You
1. His Gaze
A guy who likes a girl would stare passionately at the girl. His stare becomes obvious to a fault. A bold and confident guy would gaze at his crush intensely, with the intention of making it obvious to her that he is interested in her. On the other hand, a guy who is shy will throw gazes at intervals at his crush, without wanting to be caught. But often times, if the crush is intense, he is bound to get caught sooner or later. So take note.
2. He Lets you Know
Now things can’t be more obvious than this sub-heading. Come on, if a guy tells a girl that he likes her, then, he probably does. A guy who does this is apparently a bold and confident guy who knows what he wants. He might also be a douche bag or a hot head, so watch out.
Also, take note of the tone of his voice when he says “I like you.” There are different ways a guy could like a girl. Does he like you in the sexual- I want us to be together way? Is it an “I think you are cool, I want us to be good friends” way? Does he like you in the “I like you like a sister, I want to protect you” kind of way? Either way, it’s all in his voice and the way he says it, if you look closely, you can tell to what direction he likes you.
3. The Questions
Okay, when you find a guy who looks for ways to ask you numerous questions whether they make sense or not, he might just like you. Now, these questions may not be limited to face to face conversations. He could ask these questions on various social media platforms such as Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram e.t.c. A guy who does this is just trying to make conversation with the girl he likes, in other to get her attention and fondness, so as to take it to the next level.
Be careful not to think every guy who asks a girl random question likes her. It depends on the frequency and type of questions asked. If he asks you for directions to a place or if asks for the answer to a question, it doesn’t necessarily mean he likes you. Remember it’s all in the frequency and attitude with which he asks you. A guy who is not interested in a girl would not put in so much effort to quiz a girl he doesn’t like. So take note.
4. He Likes what you Like
If you find a guy who just happens to like 80% or more of what you like, especially after asking you numerous questions, then he might be trying to get in your good books. There are various ways a guy finds out the likes and dislikes of his crush. He could take cues from your conversations together, from your friends, or social media. In other words, if your conversation has a lot of “Me too’s” then that’s a good sign.
5. His Body Language
Body language is another factor to really consider in how to tell if a guy likes you or not. When a guy leans in towards a girl during a conversation even when he can hear her loud and clear, he probably likes her. In the same vein, a guy who acts cool and tough may also lean back and act like he is not interested even though he is.
6. A Difference in Behaviour
A guy who likes a girl most often than not behaves a little different from when he is with his male friends or in a gathering of both males and females. You need to observe him from a distance so as know if he acts differently from when he is with you. Guys who like girls tend to consciously or unconsciously behave slightly different when they are with their crush because they are trying to either prove something, be funnier or act cooler just to get the girl’s attention. However, behaving differently is usually attributed to younger, less experienced guys.
7. The Ignoring Mode
Be vigilant girls! If that guy is ignoring you, he may like you a little more than he is willing to admit. Though this is not always the case, the “Ignore her mode” is a trick as old as time itself. Men have used this trick to get girls they like for years, especially if such a girl is a highly sought after girl. For instance, if a guy sees that the particular girl he likes is a snub and plays hard to get, especially if she is fancied by other boys, he may be willing to go into the “Ignore her” mode in order not to appear desperate. He will, however, look for the right moment to get the girl’s attention because, by this time, the girl is probably wondering why this particular guy is not going out of his way to woo her. It’s usually in this situation he makes his move and declares his intention.
8. He Wants to Pay for you
It’s a social expectation that guys be courteous enough to make the lives of the ladies a lot easier and enjoyable. Though things are changing, especially with the rise of modern day feminism and gender equality push, guys may not feel obligated to give kind gestures to any radon lady. Nevertheless, chivalry is not dead. Most guys who are interested in a girl would most likely want to do little things for her, like buying her a drink or paying for the bus fare etc.
Even with stingy guys, being a gentle man in the area of paying for a lady they like, is almost a default. The trick is watching how he is with his friends. It’s either he is a generous guy or not. Generous guys will pay for things whether it’s for friends or not. But if he pays for you most times especially if he just met you, then he might really like you. On the other hand, if he only buys for himself when he is out with friends, but buys for you instead, he is definitely interested in you. But I don’t think you would want to be with a guy who is over all stingy, do you?
9. He Adds You Up On Social Media Platforms
There are ways to communicate and better pass information these days. This plethora of social media platforms including; Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat etc., makes communication easier. If a guy starts adding up a girl on these platforms, then he is interested in that girl. Of course, a guy may request that a girl accepts his friend request on social media for various reasons. She could be a family member or a course mates or a colleague. If it involves a girl he is not close with, then he might want to get closer to her.
10. He Becomes Jealous and Protective
Guys are more dominant and territorial in nature. When they like a girl, they consciously become protective of her and wouldn’t want her manhandled. It could be when he is walking with her in a crowd and he positions himself to take the hits rather than let her suffer them. He defends her when he sees another guy trying to force himself on her. He gets jealous if he sees her having fun with another guy (jerk) or laughing at the jokes of another guy (moron). Check it, he definitely is interested in the girl.
11. The Boyfriend Question
Do you have a boyfriend? This sort of question is rarely asked by guys who are not interested in you for real. He may not ask directly but he could ask questions like; “Do you stay alone?” “Do you have a room mate?” “Are you seeing anyone at the moment?” These could be a clear sign that he is interested in you.
In conclusion, it is important to realize that boys are not so complex. They are generally easier to read as compared to the ladies. Therefore, how to tell if a guy likes you should be easy as a walk in the park.
There are many ways to develop the unique skill of how to tell if a guy likes you. But, whatever you do, be sure to consider the signs shown in this piece. Happy reading!
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1. He Makes Eye Contact
If a guy is making direct eye contact with you from afar or while he’s talking with you, he is likely interested. Eye contact is a very common way that guys communicate, so if you catch him locking eyes with you, and especially if he holds the gaze, he’s interested.
2. He Approaches You
If a guy has the courage to come up to you, whether you’re at work, in a bar, the mall, or another public place, chances are he likes you. He may simply say hello or he may come up with a question or statement. Either way, he’s made it a point to approach you and make some sort of contact.
3. He Acts Shy Around You
There are some guys who tend to get shy around girls they like. If he’s usually all chummy with his friends, yet he gets quiet and shy around you, it could mean that he’s totally into you.
4. He Asks for Your Number
It’s safe to say if a guy asks for your digits, he’s likely interested in you. Sure, there is a chance he may just want a friendship, but most guys won’t come right out and ask a girl for her number unless he’s interested to some degree.
5. He Leans in Towards You
If you’re conversing with a guy and he leans in close to you, such body language is a signal that he may like you. Is he leaning in and paying close attention to what you’re saying? Is his attention solely on you? Pay attention to his body language.
6. He Buys You a Drink
Most guys won’t buy drinks for a girl they’re not interested in. If he buys you a drink at a bar or coffee at a café, he’s likely interested in getting to know you better.
7. He Adds You on Social Media
If a guy adds you as a friend on Facebook or Instagram, he may be interested in you. Granted, he may simply be into you as a friend, but to make the effort to find you on social media means that you are on his mind. This could mean that he likes you.
8. He Plays Hard to Get
Some guys play hard to get when they like a girl. He may act nonchalant or not interested, yet this is a strategy he uses to draw girls in. Sending mixed signals have caused many women to become intrigued and want to get to know a guy better.
9. He Keeps Looking at You
Granted, many guys will check out women just for the thrill of it, but sometimes this means that a guy really likes you. Is he checking you out up and down? Is he sneaking peaks at your chest or butt? This could mean he totally likes you.
10. He Asks if You’re Single
If a guy approaches you and asks if you’re single, chances are he’s interested in getting to know you better. This is a tell-tale sign that a guy likes you as more than just a friend.
11. He Texts You Regularly
Many guys don’t care for texting, so if a guy is texting you regularly, he may very well like you. Additionally, when he’s with you, he puts his phone aside and focuses solely on you – even if someone is calling or texting him.
12. He Flirts With You
Sure, some guys flirt with lots of girls, but there are those that only flirt when they are interested in someone. Is he flirting with you? Is he teasing you? Is he playful, always smiling when he’s around you?
13. He Makes Physical cContact with You
It could be a little brush up against you as he walks away from you, or maybe he puts his hand on your arm while talking to you. Is he touchy-feeling? If so, he could be giving subtle clues that he likes you.
14. He Remembers Things
If a guy remembers little things about you, it’s because he’s really paying attention. Does he remember the outfit you wore last time you met? Does he remember your favorite drink? Birthday? Plans for the weekend? Past conversations?
15. He Compliments You Regularly
A sure sign that a guy likes you is if he compliments you regularly. Does he tell you that you’re beautiful? That he likes your outfit? Hair style? Does he put effort into making you feel like a million bucks? If so, chances are he’s totally into you.
Wondering if a guy likes you or not doesn’t have to drive you bonkers anymore. Keep these signs in mind if you’re wondering about a certain guy. And, if all else fails, you always have the choice of asking a guy straight up if he likes you as a friend, or if he’s interested in more than that. Sure, that may feel a bit awkward, but it may be your best bet at getting to the truth.
Granted, he may not always tell you the truth, so sometimes you’re going to have to go on your intuition. Whether he is or not, you can certainly engage with him at a friendship level and see how it goes from there. There’s no harm in keeping it at a friendship level, and as you do, keep your eyes peeled for these 15 signs that he make be into you as more than a friend.
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1. He makes eye contact
They say the eyes are the window to the soul. When a guy likes you he’ll want to know the real you and one way he’ll do this is by making direct eye contact. Eye contact lets you know that he not only enjoys looking at you, but that he wants to look deeper, beyond the physical, and he’s inviting you to do the same with him. So go for it! Also, if you’re really observant, take a look at his pupils — if they dilate it’s another indicator that he likes you.
2. He asks questions about past relationships
Beyond asking whether you are currently dating anyone, a guy who’s interested in you will also ask questions about past relationships. Why? Because he wants to understand you better. He wants to know your likes and dislikes when it comes to relationships. It also helps both of you understand where things went right (or wrong) in your past relationships and this becomes a great learning opportunity. The more concern he shows about past relationships, the more he likes you. He simply wants to get as much information as possible so that you two can build a better and more solid relationship.
3. He’s curious about your family
Being in a relationship means that at some point, you have to meet each other’s family’s. And who you are today is also shaped by your family. So if a guy is asking about your family, it’s because he wants to learn about the people you care about and the values they uphold. So be happy when he asks you about your family. In his mind, he’s preparing for the day when he’ll have to meet them and answer the 1001 questions that they’ll likely fire at him.
4. He spends hours talking to you
If a guy spends a lot of time talking with you, be it on the phone or in person, it means he really enjoys your company. He wants to be in your company for as long as possible and he finds your conversations to be interesting, challenging, and fulfilling. So have no doubt that if you two talk for hours without him rushing to get off the phone or to go home, you’ve got a connection that goes beyond simple friendship.
5. He leans in and/or faces you during a conversation
Always look out for body language. The more a guy likes you, the more his body naturally opens up to you. When you’re talking try to notice if he leans in toward you. It doesn’t matter whether you two are facing each other or you’re side by side. His body will naturally sway in your direction when he likes you. This body language indicates that he’s giving you his full attention. He doesn’t want anything to distract or interrupt your interaction because he’s enjoying your company to the fullest.
6. He’s protective of you and your needs
When you’re out walking, does he protect you from an approaching cyclist on the sidewalk? Does he tell you to watch out for a water puddle? Can you count on him to give you a hug when you’ve got the blues? All of these gestures are a sign that your safety and comfort are a priority for him. He definitely cares for you and doesn’t hesitate to show it.
7. He’s there when you need him
When you’re having a rough day and he’s busy, does he still find a way to carve time out so you can talk on the phone or meet in person? Does he give you helpful advice when you’re dealing with a crisis? That’s a clear sign that he cares about your well-being and is really into you. Your happiness matters and he’s willing to do everything he can to help you in your time of need.
8. He’s playful and teases you
Teasing is a sign of affection and it also shows a degree of comfort and familiarity. A guy will only tease someone that he likes. So if your special someone teases you a lot or mimics you in an attempt to make you smile, then he’s showing his affection for you.
9. He remembers special days
When a guy likes you, he’ll remember and celebrate all dates that are important to you. It could be planning something special for your birthday, or texting you words of encouragement right before a job interview. Regardless of whether the gesture is lavish or not, the fact that he takes the time to remember important dates should tell you he really likes you.
10. He can’t wait to tell you about his day
If you’re the first person he texts to share a silly joke, to share news of his buddy’s engagement, or news of a family member being hospitalized, then he’s into you. Guys generally rush to share news about their life only with people that are important to them. So, count yourself among that VIP list if you’re always the first to get breaking news updates from him.