How To Tell If A Guy Likes You – 12 Signs He’s Into You (and not wasting your time)!
How can you tell if a guy REALLY likes you? Dating is confusing and guys are even MORE confusing, especially these days when online dating and apps like Tinder have turned dating into the Wild Wild West. It’s a little crazy out there!
As a matchmaker and dating coach, I’ve worked with single men for a decade, and I have unique insight into how they date.
Did you know that some men will text you, call you, spend time with you and sleep with you even though they’re not interested in having a relationship with you? It’s true!
I know you don’t want to be THAT girl – the one he’s killing time with while he looks for someone he’s excited about. No way!
I don’t want you to waste time on the wrong guy ever again. Your time is too valuable and you deserve better.
So how can you tell if a guy likes you?
Here’s a checklist to help you figure out if the guy you’re dating is genuinely interested in having a relationship with YOU. If he’s doing all 12 of these things, the odds are he’s smitten. Here’s how to tell if a guy really likes you…
12 WAYS TO TELL IF A GUY LIKES YOU
1. He stays in touch every single day
When a guy likes you, he wants to hear your voice or see your name pop up in his text messages. Even on the days you don’t see each other, he checks in to say “hi” and let you know you’re on his mind.
2. He tells you what he likes about you
You don’t have to wonder if he likes you because he tells you that he does! He consistently pays you compliments. What a nice guy! : )
3. He calls when he says he’ll call
No more sitting by the phone waiting for him to call. He calls exactly when he says he will, so you don’t have to feel anxious. You know you can depend on him.
4. He asks to spend time with you (consistently and often)
A man who’s excited about you will do more than just text or call. He’ll make sure he spends lots of time with you on a regular basis (no matter how busy he is).
5. He asks you out in advance
You don’t have to sit around wondering if you’re going to see him this weekend. He asks you out in advance, and you’ve got a date on your calendar. If a guy really likes you, he’ll pin you down and make sure you’re on his calendar (instead of on some other guy’s calendar!)
6. He plans real dates
He doesn’t just ask you to hang out at his place (or yours) with Netflix and a pizza (although that’s fun once in a while). He plans real dates (like dinner, drinks, theater, museums, hikes, day trips and more) because he wants to have fun with you!
7. He makes an effort
When a guy likes you, he makes an effort! He texts, calls, plans dates, picks you up and picks up the check. He doesn’t mind working a little harder because he feels you’re worth the effort.
8. He doesn’t make you feel anxious (at all)
He makes you feel “comfortable”, and you can be yourself around him. You never have to worry about whether or not you’ll hear from him because he’s consistent and makes you feel secure. You feel relaxed around him instead of anxious.
9. He goes out of his way to spend time with you (even when he’s busy)
He doesn’t give you a lame excuse for why he can’t see you this week. Even if work is crazy, he’s got errands or he’s got a marathon to train for, he finds time for you. He makes sure he sees you no matter what else is going on in his life because he cares about you and enjoys being with you.
10. He introduces you to his peeps
He wants his friends (and eventually his family) to meet you! And he wants to see how you get a long with the people in his life because he’s figuring out if you’re a long-term fit.
11. He’s fine waiting to have sex
When a man really likes you, he’ll wait. Even though he’s attracted to you and is dying to “get busy”, he respects your boundaries and waits until you’re ready (which should be AFTER he asks you to be his girlfriend).
12. He asks you to be exclusive and date only him
After the two of you have been dating for a while, he asks you to be exclusive. He wants you to be his girlfriend and stop dating other men (and if he’s doing all of the above, I hope you’ll say “yes”!).
In this time of dating-overload-and-too-many-options, men don’t really have to work very hard to find a date. But to find LOVE, they’ll happily make an effort.
So stop listening to what men say and start watching what they DO!
Stop worrying and wondering if the guy you’re dating really likes you!
Use this checklist to tell if he’s into you. If the guy you’re dating does all of the things on this list, he’s probably a keeper who’s excited about you!
And you soooo deserve a guy like that!
Does He Love Me? How to Know If a Guy Likes You.
1. He Makes Eye Contact
If a guy is making direct eye contact with you from afar or while he’s talking with you, he is likely interested. Eye contact is a very common way that guys communicate, so if you catch him locking eyes with you, and especially if he holds the gaze, he’s interested.
2. He Approaches You
If a guy has the courage to come up to you, whether you’re at work, in a bar, the mall, or another public place, chances are he likes you. He may simply say hello or he may come up with a question or statement. Either way, he’s made it a point to approach you and make some sort of contact.
3. He Acts Shy Around You
There are some guys who tend to get shy around girls they like. If he’s usually all chummy with his friends, yet he gets quiet and shy around you, it could mean that he’s totally into you.
4. He Asks for Your Number
It’s safe to say if a guy asks for your digits, he’s likely interested in you. Sure, there is a chance he may just want a friendship, but most guys won’t come right out and ask a girl for her number unless he’s interested to some degree.
5. He Leans in Towards You
If you’re conversing with a guy and he leans in close to you, such body language is a signal that he may like you. Is he leaning in and paying close attention to what you’re saying? Is his attention solely on you? Pay attention to his body language.
6. He Buys You a Drink
Most guys won’t buy drinks for a girl they’re not interested in. If he buys you a drink at a bar or coffee at a café, he’s likely interested in getting to know you better.
7. He Adds You on Social Media
If a guy adds you as a friend on Facebook or Instagram, he may be interested in you. Granted, he may simply be into you as a friend, but to make the effort to find you on social media means that you are on his mind. This could mean that he likes you.
8. He Plays Hard to Get
Some guys play hard to get when they like a girl. He may act nonchalant or not interested, yet this is a strategy he uses to draw girls in. Sending mixed signals have caused many women to become intrigued and want to get to know a guy better.
9. He Keeps Looking at You
Granted, many guys will check out women just for the thrill of it, but sometimes this means that a guy really likes you. Is he checking you out up and down? Is he sneaking peaks at your chest or butt? This could mean he totally likes you.
10. He Asks if You’re Single
If a guy approaches you and asks if you’re single, chances are he’s interested in getting to know you better. This is a tell-tale sign that a guy likes you as more than just a friend.
11. He Texts You Regularly
Many guys don’t care for texting, so if a guy is texting you regularly, he may very well like you. Additionally, when he’s with you, he puts his phone aside and focuses solely on you – even if someone is calling or texting him.
12. He Flirts With You
Sure, some guys flirt with lots of girls, but there are those that only flirt when they are interested in someone. Is he flirting with you? Is he teasing you? Is he playful, always smiling when he’s around you?
13. He Makes Physical cContact with You
It could be a little brush up against you as he walks away from you, or maybe he puts his hand on your arm while talking to you. Is he touchy-feeling? If so, he could be giving subtle clues that he likes you.
14. He Remembers Things
If a guy remembers little things about you, it’s because he’s really paying attention. Does he remember the outfit you wore last time you met? Does he remember your favorite drink? Birthday? Plans for the weekend? Past conversations?
15. He Compliments You Regularly
A sure sign that a guy likes you is if he compliments you regularly. Does he tell you that you’re beautiful? That he likes your outfit? Hair style? Does he put effort into making you feel like a million bucks? If so, chances are he’s totally into you.
Wondering if a guy likes you or not doesn’t have to drive you bonkers anymore. Keep these signs in mind if you’re wondering about a certain guy. And, if all else fails, you always have the choice of asking a guy straight up if he likes you as a friend, or if he’s interested in more than that. Sure, that may feel a bit awkward, but it may be your best bet at getting to the truth.
Granted, he may not always tell you the truth, so sometimes you’re going to have to go on your intuition. Whether he is or not, you can certainly engage with him at a friendship level and see how it goes from there. There’s no harm in keeping it at a friendship level, and as you do, keep your eyes peeled for these 15 signs that he make be into you as more than a friend.