It’s sad when a relationship ends. It’s kind of hard to describe the feeling when you know you are in love with someone who you are no longer with; the utter heartbreak that sends jolts of longing and regret through your entire body.
Nothing really captures that hollow feeling of regret that ends up overwhelming your heart, particularly when it comes to a breakup.
Is it possible to get your ex back, though?
Yes and no. The reality is: you cannot force anyone to be with you. There is nothing you can do to ensure you get a certain outcome from somebody.
There are things that you can do, though, to maximize your chances of getting the person you loved and lost back.
Step 1: Leave them alone for at least a month if the breakup is fresh.
If you just broke up, it’s best to avoid constant communication unless there is some specific reason to (i.e you have children together or some kind of mutually shared situation that’s unavoidable).
What I mean by leave them alone is don’t bring up the notion of getting back together just yet. Let the wounds somewhat heal before trying to reunite. If you have been broke up for a long time, ignore this. The reason you want to put some time between the breakup is the bad memories (if there are bad memories) are still fresh and your ex’s emotions are extremely raw. Time offers perspective.
Step 2: Improve yourself and focus on what you can control.
The key to getting your ex back is… making a concerted effort to improving yourself and your life.
Do things you love to do. Re-discover a hobby you used to do or discover a new hobby. Change up your everyday routine. If you make an effort to change the things in your life that you can control, your mindset (along with the energy you project) becomes more attractive.
Step 3: Assess (honestly) whether or not you are compatible.
Before you rush back into something, make an effort to figure out whether you and your ex truly mesh as people. Consider the reasons you want them back and try to think of how you interact as people. Does the interaction feel effortless and natural?
Or, when you think about it, was the only reason you were together out of loneliness or wanting to be with someone instead of being alone? If this is the truth, perhaps getting back isn’t the right move.
Step 4: Realize that even if it doesn’t work out the way you want it to you will be okay.
This is an extremely important step when it comes to this venture. If your entire sense of happiness hinges on whether your ex comes back to you or not, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. This creates a needy vibe. Neediness is an automatic turn off—and will stop your ex in their tracks of even considering getting back together.
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How To Make Your Ex Miss You
When you back away from your ex and disappear from their life, you give them the opportunity to miss you because you are not there.
A boyfriend or girlfriend has to notice and they have to experience the consequences of their decision to break up with you in order to miss you.
You want to know how to make your ex want you back and I’m here to tell you that they have to know what it’s like not having you in order for that to happen.
You must stop acting like this person’s lover completely. No gifts. No physical contact. Just silence. That is how to make your ex miss you and regret losing you.
Here’s the deal:
If you see a boyfriend or girlfriend in public, I’m not suggesting you ignore them because that would look rude and immature.
It would actually be showing them that you are not in a good place (and you want them to at least believe that you are in a good place).
So if you see them out somewhere and come face to face with them, smile, and say something like, “Hey, good to see you. I hope you’re doing well. I’ve got to run but take care.”
If you haven’t seen them in a while maybe add, “I’ve got to run but let’s catch up sometime.”
That’s it. Then casually walk away. (Does he miss me during no contact?)
If you are in class with your ex, be smart in avoiding the potential for face to face contact. Sit far away from them if possible.
Wait until they leave the room before you leave to ensure you don’t get near them.
Your ex needs to feel what it’s like to be broken up with you in order for them to decide they don’t want the breakup after all and want to come back to you.
If you are still there, they are getting to be on both sides of the fence in a way or at least it will feel like that to your ex.
You want the breakup to be difficult for them in this way. If they cared about you at all and if you two had been together for a decent amount of time – say at least 2 months – then it will be difficult for an ex if you are silent and are no longer there.
But so many people who want to get their ex back overwhelm them with their presence and eventually the ex becomes so annoyed that they don’t just NOT miss you but it takes them much longer to develop feelings of missing you.
Rather than want you back, even more than before, they want to be away from you. It will take longer for them to miss you if those feelings are even still possible anymore.
Relax, most likely those feelings of missing you are still possible, but in order to have the best chance of getting your ex back, you have got to back away completely immediately.
That is how to make your ex miss you badly.
I encourage you to read one or both of the following articles to help you more in your situation:
–Just Dumped? Stay Calm and Read This–The No Contact Rule To Get Your Ex Back
To get my help with your specific situation and a tailored map to getting your ex back, schedule a coaching session with me.
If you want to know how to get your ex to want you back, I’ve spelled it out. Many people contact me and say, “I want to know how to make my ex miss me.”
You need to be focused and determined in the approach provided in this article.
Don’t allow yourself to back down or give into panic, emotions, or desperation. It simply won’t work.
Stay calm, stay silent, and follow the guidance of this article to have the best chance of getting your ex back for the long term.
The pattern of what works is clear and that is what I’ve shared with you to help you get your ex back. To get my help with your specific situation and a tailored map to getting your ex back, click here to schedule a coaching call with me.