2. Remember that whatever you pay attention to grows in your mind.
If you focus on what’s going wrong in your life—especially if you see it as “bad luck” you can do nothing about—it will seem blacker and more malevolent.
In a short time, you’ll become so convinced that everything is against you that you’ll notice more and more instances where this appears to be true. As a result, you will drown yourself in negative energy and almost certainly stop trying, convinced that nothing you can do will improve your prospects.
Not long ago, a reader (I’ll call her Kelly) has shared with me about how frustrated she felt and how unlucky she was. Kelly’s an aspiring entrepreneur. She had been trying to find investors to invest in her project. It hadn’t been going well as she was always rejected by the potential investors. And at her most stressful time, her boyfriend broke up with her. And the day after her breakup, she missed an important opportunity to meet an interested investor. She was about to give up because she felt that she’d not be lucky enough to build her business successfully.
It definitely wasn’t an easy time for her. She was stressful and tired. But it wasn’t bad luck that was playing the role.
Fatalism feeds on itself until people become passive “victims” of life’s blows. The “losers” in life are those who are convinced they will fail before they start anything; sure that their “bad luck” will ruin any prospects of success.
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They rarely notice that the true reasons for their failure are ignorance, laziness, lack of skill, lack of forethought, or just plain foolishness—all of which they could do something to correct, if only they would stop blaming other people or “bad luck” for their personal deficiencies.
Your attention is under your control. Send it where you want it to go. Starve the negative thoughts until they die.
I explained to Kelly that to improve her fortune and have “good luck”, first decide that what happens is nearly always down to her; then try to focus on what works and what turns out well, not the bad stuff.
Then Kelly tried to review her current situation objectively. She realized that she only needed a short break for herself — from work and her just broken-up relationship. She really needed some time to clear up her mind before moving on with her work and life. When she got her emotions settled down from her heartbreak, she started to work on improving her business’ selling points and looked for new investors that are more suitable.
A few months later, she told me that she finally found two investors who were really interested in her project and would like to work with her to grow the business. I was really glad that she could take back control of her destiny and achieved what she wanted.
Your “fate” really does depend on the choices that you make. When random events happen, as they always will, do you choose to try to turn them to your advantage or just complain about them?
How To Get Rid of Cellulite
From cellulite-reducing lotions to laser-light machines, nearly every method that exists out there for eliminating or reducing cellulite is based on one of two principles:
1) strengthen connective tissue
2) decrease fat
Let’s look at both.
In “How to Tighten Loose Skin After Weight Loss,” I wrote that different layers of your skin have different types of cells, with the cells on the outer part of your skin (the epidermis) being constantly lost and replaced with new cells, while cells on the inner part of the skin are more permanent.
These inner layers of the skin are comprised of elastic connective tissues, fibers, and blood vessels. If these supporting layers are weak or compromised, fat can poke through and you get the result of cellulite.
So what can strengthen the connective tissue of your inner skin so that fat is less likely to come through?
Here are four tips for strengthening connective tissue to reduce cellulite formation:
- Exercise. Exercise improves blood flow to connective tissue and strengthens the muscles that help tighten and support skin. To focus on getting rid of cellulite in one area, do a workout such as the one described in “How to Lose Fat In One Body Part.”
- Creams. Aloe vera, hyaluronic acid, yeast extract, soy protein, vitamin C, vitamin E, and vitamin A can help to hydrate skin and increase collagen and elastin formation — and are the primary ingredients of popular herbal formula skin tightening creams. Just be careful with these creams, as many can irritate your skin and cause hives or rashes, and may also contain caffeine for circulation, which can also give you jitters and insomnia.
- Nutrition. By regularly eating protein-rich foods such as fish, nuts, seeds, yogurt, beef, or dairy, you can get a higher dietary supply of collagen and elastin forming components, which help strengthen connective tissue. Staying hydrated each day will also assist your skin’s elasticity and help your connective tissue stay healthy and supple.
- Circulation. Avoid tight clothing and tight underwear, especially around areas where you tend to form cellulite or you don’t want to get cellulite. A medical laser treatment might also improve circulation, but may not be much better than simply getting a regular massage to enhance circulation. Radio frequency, vibration, and ultrasound are other examples of fancy, expensive methods to improve circulation. Although doctors who profit from such treatments probably don’t want to hear this, just as much circulation may be able to be achieved through regular exercise and massage.
Besides strengthening connective tissue, the other way of getting rid of cellulite is to decrease your overall fat stores. These four fat-fighting tips will probably be familiar. That’s because they really work:
- Exercise. In The Best Workout For Fat Loss, I explain the ideal workout to combine connective tissue strengthening and fat loss, which can significantly reduce the appearance of cellulite.
- Nutrition. High sugar and high calorie foods, and foods with lots of the nasty Ps (packaging, processing, or preservatives) can increase your potential for fat formation. It’s easiest to keep fat at bay when you focus on simply reducing your overall intake of any of these, in favor of dark leafy greens, moderate amounts of protein, and lots of healthy fats.
- Liposuction. One popular method for reducing fat is to simply get it sucked out. Unfortunately, this doesn’t mean that you won’t put the fat back on. Liposuction can also cause unsightly dimples where the cellulite used to be.
- Injections. Injections of pharmacological drugs are designed to cause destruction of fat cell membranes. Some countries do not even approve this method, since it is not well researched and may be risky, and I personally wouldn’t recommend injecting cell membrane destroying compounds into your body.
There are certainly other complex cellulite reduction methods, but most are simply combinations of the methods described above. For example, “SmoothShapes” is one popular machine that combines massaging rollers with laser light, and “VeloSmooth” combines infrared light, radiofrequency, and massage.
Similar to other methods described in this article, these fancy and expensive machines are simply designed to improve circulation – which you can achieve by leading an active, healthy lifestyle, and getting massages.
-You get cellulite from a combination of weak connective tissue and excessive fat stores.
-You get rid of cellulite by strengthening connective tissue, increasing circulation, burning fat, and making dietary and lifestyle modifications to keep fat from getting stored.
-Most expensive cellulite reduction machines or techniques aren’t doing much you can’t accomplish yourself by improving circulation and strengthening connective tissue.
- Cellulite affects 90% of women and 10% of men. http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=is-cellulite-forever
- While it is true that a drop in estrogen can cause weak collagen in older women, just the opposite appears to be the case in younger women. Rossi AB, Vergnanini AL (July 2000). “Cellulite: a review”. J Eur Acad Dermatol Venereol 14 (4): 251–62.
- Among younger women, excessive estrogen (also known as estrogen dominance) can occur due to eating high amounts of processed foods, soy and packaged foods. Phytoestrogens and health, G. Sarwar Gilani, John Joseph
- Estrogen dominance or hormonal imbalances can also result from physical inactivity (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17549594), stress (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11889205 ), excessive caloric intake (http://jnci.oxfordjournals.org/content/91/6/529.long), birth control pills (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16409223), pregnancy (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11927496) and fat deposits (http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S019096220145314X).
- Characteristics of specific genes have been shown to increase your chances of getting cellulite. Rossi AB, Vergnanini AL (July 2000). “Cellulite: a review”. J Eur Acad Dermatol Venereol 14 (4): 251–62.
- The collagen in women is structured differently than in men, and is slightly weaker. Dr. Len Kravitz (subcutaneous fat graphic): https://www.unm.edu/~lkravitz/Article%20folder/cellulite2.html
- Compared to men, women have a much higher ratio of alpha receptors to beta receptors (about 10 times higher)! Estrogen receptor-alpha and beta are differentially distributed, expressed and activated in the fetal genital tubercle: http://journals.lww.com/co-clinicalnutrition/Abstract/2001/11000/Gender_differences_in_fat_metabolism.6.aspx
- In addition, estrogen levels can increase propensity to build fat in younger women, plus women simply have more estrogen than men. “Effects of the menopause transition on body fatness and body fat distribution”: http://ukpmc.ac.uk/abstract/MED/9618130
For more cellulite reducing tips, you should grab my book “Get-Fit Guy’s Guide to Achieving Your Ideal Body — A Workout Plan for Your Unique Shape“. It will be published by St. Martin’s Press on May 8, 2012.
Questions, comments, or feedback about why you get cellulite or how to get rid cellulite? Leave your thoughts below!
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