Hickeys are usually not painful or dangerous for the receiver and mean different to different people. To some, they are something to be proud of and a sign of love while to others they are often not desired and need to be hidden or removed. This article is designed to improve your knowledge about hickeys such as how to remove them, hide them or give them to your partner according to your needs.
How long do Hickeys Last?
If you have a hickey, the first question that comes to mind is, “How long does a hickey last?” A hickey is not a permanent mark. It fades with time and does not leave any scar behind. If untreated, hickeys typically last about 5 to 12 days. However, hickeys may linger for some time because of:
- Harshness- some hickeys are more severe than others are and take a longer time to heal. The amount of damage done to the blood vessels in the skin will affect the time it takes for the hickey to fade away.
- Personal Health- your personal health also affects how long you will have to live with a hickey. The healthier you are, the faster the hickey will fade.
How to Give a Hickey?
Having been a victim of a hickey, you may be seeking payback. Make sure your partner actually wants one before giving him or her a hickey. However, if you want to give your partner a hickey for another reason, here is how to give someone a hickey.
1. Know the Why
Before you give someone a hickey, try to understand why you are doing it. Hickeys are a primitive way of “marking territory” and they symbolize love and trust between people. You do not give your partner a hickey just because you know how to give a hickey; a hickey is a lot more than just a bruise.
Giving someone a hickey can cause them pain, and some people do not believe in them. They do not see how causing a loved one pain can be a symbol of love.
2. Be considerate
Try to find out what your partner’s feelings about hickeys are. Some people do not like hickeys or see them as an inconvenience. Others treasure them and see them as a mark of affection. Knowing how your partner feels about having a hickey will help you decide whether to proceed. It might also prevent any problems giving a hickey might cause.
3. How do you give a Hickey?
There are several ways to give a hickey. You can do it by sucking, kissing aggressively or biting the tender flesh found on the neck, the crook of the elbow or the inner thigh. If you want the hickey to be seen, the neck is the best choice. Sucking is the easiest way to give someone a hickey.
- To give your partner a hickey, place your mouth on their neck in a kissing shape.
- Your lips should be partially open such that they form an “O” shape. Suck the person’s skin into your mouth.
- The sucking has to be hard enough to cause the blood capillaries in the skin to rupture. You should keep the sucking up for about 30 seconds.
- If you find this to be uncomfortable, you can do it intermittently, but in the same area, about 10 seconds each time.
If you are not good at sucking, you can use your teeth to give the hickey. Nibble on your partner’s neck for some time to achieve this. However, this technique should be used as a last resort since you might end up hurting your partner. It is not too romantic either.
4. Wait for the Results
After you have finished, wait for the hickey to appear. Like most bruises, hickeys can take 5 to 10 minutes to appear. If you want to make the hickey a little darker after it has appeared, you can suck on it a little more.
In conclusion, we can learn three simple things about hickeys:
- First, a hickey is an injury. It needs to be allowed to heal. If you have a severe hickey or several hickeys that are causing you pain, you can remove them using the methods discussed.
- Second, a hickey can cause you a measure of embarrassment or discomfort. If you are not comfortable with a hickey, you can choose to conceal or remove it. You can conceal a hickey using makeup, hair or clothing.
- Finally, a hickey is a symbol of love. If your partner gave you a hickey, whether intentional or accidental, it should not be a cause of conflict between you. Giving you a hickey is a sign of how much they value you.
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How Hickeys Work
When someone sucks on your neck, the small blood vessels close to your skin break. Blood seeps out and spreads into the surrounding tissue, collects, and clots, giving you a reddish bruise. It turns dark purple or brown over time. Eventually, the blood dissolves and is reabsorbed, and your hickey disappears. Depending on your body, this usually takes five days to a week, but you can speed up the process.
1. Ice Pack
As soon as you notice your hickey, apply an ice pack or cold compress immediately (within the first 12 hours). The cold will constrict blood vessels, reduce blood flow, and keep your hickey from growing. Press firmly and slowly, and move the ice around to make sure you get all affected areas. Keep the ice on 20 minutes, then off 20 minutes. Repeat as much as possible during the first day.
2. Cold Spoon
Similar to an ice pack, a spoon fresh out of the freezer can reduce blood flow to your hickey. You can also rub or massage the frozen spoon on the hickey area with gentle pressure to break up the blood. Once the spoon is no longer cold, return it to the freezer. Have a few spoons in the freezer so you can switch then out as they get warm.
3. Moist Heat
Once your burst blood vessels have healed, it’s time to get circulation going. If it’s been more than 48 hours, heating up the area can dilate blood vessels, increase blood flow, and help your body to reabsorb, disperse, and remove blood from the area. Place a warm water bottle, towel, or compress on the area for 10 to 20 minutes. The moisture will help the heat to sink beneath the skin. Just make sure it’s not too hot!
4. Massage the Area
After the first 48 hours, massaging your hickey can help to break up blood and promote circulation. Apply a moist heat for a few minutes to open your blood vessels. Then, using gentle pressure, massage in a circular motion starting from the center of the hickey outwards to the surrounding areas. Similar methods say to comb it out with a toothbrush, find toothed comb, coin, lipstick cap, or other objects… but no matter what you use, the concept is the same. Just make sure you don’t massage too hard or scratch the area, which would make it worse.
5. Toothpaste, Medicine, and Creams
Peppermint oil, mint oil, mint-based lotions, and mint toothpaste can help to increase blood circulation. Apply a layer to your hickey. It will begin to tingle, which means its working to stimulate circulation. Once the tingling has stopped, remove the toothpaste with a warm damp towel. This method works well, but should be used sparingly, because it could irritate your skin.
There are also a few medications and creams that can help get rid of a hickey:
- Aspirin, Excedrin, or Caffeine All of these methods help to thin blood, dilate blood vessels, and increase circulation. If it’s been over 48 hours since you got the hickey, these methods can help to reduce the appearance of a hickey
- Vitamin K Cream Used to treat bruises and prevent blood clots by helping your body reabsorb blood.
- Vitamin E Often found in Aloe Vera, Vitamin E can help blood vessels heal within the first 24 – 48 hours.
When you need you hickey to disappear fast and without a trace, professional makeup is your solution. Choose a thick, liquid concealer that is lighter than your skin tone. We recommend Dermablend Tattoo Concealer, or any concealer that is used to cover tattoos and scars.
To make sure the job is done right, before applying your concealer, cover the hickey with green corrector makeup. Hickeys are red, and since green is on the opposite side of the color wheel, using green corrector will immediately make it less visible. Then, use a make up brush to paint your concealer over the outline of your hickey. Make sure your concealer is slightly lighter than your skin tone to help lighten the appearance. Dab the area to spread the concealer around and blend it with your surrounding skin. Finish with a light layer of foundation that matches your skin tone, and check to make sure the area looks blended.
7. Clothing and Accessories
Sometimes, there’s not enough makeup in the world to cover a hickey. So, you’ve got to hide that bitch with anything you’ve got. Sweaters, turtle necks, scarves, hoodies… if you can put it over your neck, wear it. Avoid the gym for a few days, and prepare yourself for class, work, or anywhere you might be expected to take off your winter jacket. But, you can only pull this move off if it’s cold out, or maybe if it’s a chilly day. If it’s summer, you have to get creative. You could put on a bandaid and make up a story, like “I burnt myself with a curling iron”, “I got scratched by my cat”, or something that seems fitting… just hope they don’t ask to see the mark. You can also cover a hickey with your hair, though be careful not to reveal it when moving around. Finally, avoid wearing jewelry that draws attention to your neck, like necklaces and earrings. Opt for chunky bracelets and big rings, or an elaborate shirt that will move their eyes elsewhere.
Many carrier and essential oils can remove the hickey in seconds. So rub some diluted Lavender, Peppermint or Tea tree oil on the lovebite. Cover it up with a bandage. Repeat application after 2 hours and continue to apply the oil until the lovebite has disappeared. You can also use coconut oil, sesame oil, jojoba oil or olive oil to lighten the hickey. Bio-Oil® or other scar fading products can also do wonders.
Foundation creams and powder makeup are one of the easiest ways to hide a hickey. Choose a produce closest in color to your skin tone. Apply it liberally on the hickey. Choose a waterproof product that lasts all day.
14. Rub a banana peel on hickey
Use the inside of a ripe banana peel to rub the lovebite and get rid of it within seconds. If the mark does not fade, repeat several more times every few hours. Banana peels have special enzymes and compounds that lighten the skin and fade marks, blemishes and bruises.
18. Tea bag remedy
Brew a tea bag and apply it on the hickey. Press gently. The flavonoids in tea lighten the skin tone, restore blood circulation and fade the hickey in few seconds.
Try these 18 easy ways to hide hickeys and make lovebites disappear overnight!
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