Have you been wondering how to get a guy to notice you? Find out what to do immediately to get his attention.
Do you feel like getting him to notice you has been like pulling teeth? Have you been calling your girlfriends day and night, talking about how to get him to notice you? Or maybe you’ve been married for a while and feel like your partner has completely forgotten how sexy, thrilling and awesome you are? Are you wondering how to get your husband to notice you more?
No matter what stage of relationship you are in, even if that stage is simply “want to be in one”, follow these do’s and don’ts and prepare to start making his head turn… in your direction.
Getting a guy to notice you can be hard and frustrating, but don’t give up on what you feel is right for you. And remember: if he doesn’t notice you after all that . . . he is probably not worth your attention in the first place.
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2. Use those eyes
They are your single best weapon for meeting men, the greatest flirting tool you have in your entire showing-him-you’re-interested arsenal.
And yet, for what they are, so few women know how to use them.
You can communicate more core emotion with your eyes than you ever can speaking. Men shudder at the thought of a scolding glare from a women and dream every day of the look she gives when she wants him to take her. Your eyes can communicate love through hate and everything in between. But for the purposes of today, you just want to learn to communicate one thing
“I’m interested. Come over here.”
Few women know how to actually do this. For most, using their eyes means catching a fleeting bit of eye contact with him and then wondering why he hasn’t come over… and assuming it was because he just wasn’t interested (hint: rarely true).
What these women are failing to understand is this.
Men are stupid.
Actually, that’s not quite true. Stupid might be the wrong word. ‘Blissfully oblivious and unaware’ might be more accurate when it comes to reading women’s signals.
When you catch a fleeting glance with a guy and then look away, most guys will either assume.
A) You were bored
B) You were looking for your boyfriend, or;
C) There is something wrong with his shirt
I’m not joking ladies.“That woman wants me to come over” is about 18th on his list of possible reasons as to why you looked at him.
Not only that, approaching for a guy is really scary. It’s important to understand this, because it will raise your awareness of just how obvious you have to make your invitation signals to get him to overcome his fear. Most guys (without alcohol) won’t even approach a girl in a nightclub, where it is socially acceptable, let alone a gym, a supermarket, or on the street.
Men have been programmed, neurologically, for thousands of years to fear approaching women. To hesitate frequently and pick our times. For hundreds of generations, entire communities consisted of small tribes, containing less than 100 people, and that meant less than 10 women as healthy young single options for a man’s entire life. As such, men learned to pick their moments, because one wrong move, and all 10 women in that tribe could find out what a douche he was, and he’d be out of luck for life.
You want to learn to communicate one thing. “I’m interested. Come over here.”
For this reason, tell almost any sober guy to approach a girl he doesn’t know (especially, if she’s with her friends), and he’ll freezeup, get scared, and refuse. I’ve seen numerous male strippers literally baulk at the idea of approaching a girl in the shops on an average day. And they’re strippers! How do you think it is for the average guy?
Thus, for most men, eye contact has to be far more obvious than you probably ever realised. When I coach eye contact with women, they often feel ‘uncomfortable’ when I get them to hold it for as long as it takes to get through to the guy. But this is exactly the kind of eye contact that gets you noticed! 3-4 seconds of rock solid eye contact (this is a really long time; try staring into a friend’s eyes for 3-4 seconds!) on a guy that is walking and a full 2-3 seconds on a guy standing still is a good number. This process often has to be repeated again 5 minutes later, because as I mentioned, men are stupid and rarely get the memo the first time. Hopefully, once you’ve repeated yourself, the thought of, “Oh, hey, I think that girl wants me to come over???!” eventually, enters his head.
In addition to eye contact, a close runner up in importance in getting a guy’s attention is your smile. Remember, guys naturally fear the approach. It’s bred into us. But the more we feel you want us to approach and the more we feel we aren’t going to get rejected cold on our asses, the more likely we are to actually do it.
A smile to a guy is an invitation. A green light. It says, “If you come over here and have the balls to at least try your luck, I’m not going to blow you out cold for every one to see.” Eye contact, on its own, can come off cold and even threatening. But long eye contact with a nice smile is the perfect inviting signal to make it really easy for a guy to get over his in-born hesitancies and come say hi.
Not only that, but smiling at strangers in social settings is, generally, just a good habit. Especially when you’re in an environment where you can or should potentially meet everyone (a wedding, work networking event, seminar, etc..), a smile is what makes you warm for people to approach and make friends. You’ll be the person who’s out there, introducing people and talking to everyone. And of course, if you’re meeting everyone, meeting the hottest guy there happens all too naturally!
4. Have a fun vibe to you that exudes positive energy
There’s nothing sexier than a girl who’s in her own world and loving it, without the need for anyone else to validate her fun. Two girls could dress the same, look the same, and both have their eye contact and smiles down-pat, but if one is overly concerned with how other people perceive her and getting guys’ attention, while the other is just having a blast, dancing around, maybe having a banter with the guys, then running off to have fun with the girls, she’s going to be the one who gets the guys’ attention. Every. Single. Time.
When a girl is in her own world, having this kind of fun, but then is able to stack a great smile and eye contact on top, she’ll turn the heads of every guy in the room. She won’t need guys’ attention; she can be herself, enjoy meeting people she doesn’t know, banter with everyone, and be sexual/playful with the guys. This all communicates incredible levels of confidence that guys will swoon for.
Finally, being touchy (not just with him, but with everyone you meet!) will seal the deal when it comes to getting attention.
Touching is an innocent, but extremely, effective way to show affection and build rapport. Of course, you can also break rapport with touching (you don’t want to end up the creeper, who’s weirdly all over the guy). So as with all things, touching has to be managed in a ‘normal’, not overbearing way. Playfully punching him when he says something dumb or makes fun of you, hugging everyone around, or having a close dance with lots of different people are great examples of socially acceptable ways to touch people.
If you’re worried or unsure, the easiest way to make sure your touch isn’t weird is to make sure it’s based on something fun or exciting. Anytime the conversation spikes up, someone new comes in, a fun song comes on, or a guy teases you is a point where some form of playful touch is appropriate.
“Knowing how to get a guy’s attention literally gives you the power to meet any guy you want at any time.”
In conclusion, remember, there’s a hell of a lot more to getting attention than physical looks. Your eye contact, your smile, your energy in the room, and how you touch people will all determine the attention you get and how attractive you appear to the guy you want. Get just ONE of these down, and guys will notice you. Get 2-3 of them sorted, and you can guarantee you’ll be getting attention from guys all night. All 5? Congratulations. You now have the power to get the attention of any man you desire. Use it wisely.
If you KNOW this up front, you can be more forgiving with him. It’s a little like handling children.
Example: Every single day my kids know I’m going to tell them to clean up their room and go to bed at 8:00. This almost never changes.
And what do they do – almost every single time? Yup, they whine and complain.
I know they’re going to do it, and when they do, I’m not annoyed. I just nod my head, smile, and say: “You know this is your responsibility every day. So acting like that tells me you aren’t learning from your experience.”
Then I’ll ask them to tell me WHY we do this every night. And they tell me, because they know why. And then they bounce off and do the cleaning and getting ready for bed.
You KNOW a child is going to test his or her limits with you, so why do we as parents get all irritated? It’s because we expect our kids to change their NATURE. It’s their nature to test.
The SAME thing is true with guys:
– He tries to get sex as soon as he can…
– You politely push back – with a playful sense of humor…
– He keeps trying, you keep delaying…
– Eventually, when he’s proven his character – and you share the desire – you let him in…
So when you get a guy to notice you, show a little backbone and he’ll reward you with more interest.
Now, let’s dig into 5 ways to get a guy to notice you…
GET A GUY TO NOTICE YOU – TIP 1: Give Him Opportunities…
You have to make sure you’re within his sphere of attention in order for a man to see you and take interest in you. Sometimes he genuinely is so thick that you could make eye contact and he’ll still be completely oblivious.
FYI: Eye contact is not enough – and I’ll explain why in a second…
Sometimes giving him opportunities means walking right in front of him.
Sometimes it means walking INTO him, if that’s what it takes.
And if he doesn’t respond to this, you can safely move on to happier hunting grounds, cause this guy ain’t interested.
As a woman, you don’t want to have to work TOO hard to catch his eye, because for every bit of effort you put out there, you wonder if he would have noticed you otherwise.
Look, you’re not a slut for doing a little bit of peacocking. It’s just plain common sense that you gotta strut your stuff every so often.
GET HIM TO NOTICE YOU – TIP 2: Invite His Attention…
You want to be inviting with your presence.
Yes, eye contact is CRITICAL. But it’s only part of the process of getting him to pay attention to you.
Most women do realize that eye contact is a must. It’s a no-brainer.
But HOW you give that eye contact is important.
– Make sure you make it obvious that you saw him. Lock eyes for about 2-3 seconds. It might feel like forever to you, but it takes that long for him to register what’s actually happening…
– When it’s time to break eye contact, look down and away. This is a universal signal that is not only demure and sexy, it invites him to pick it up from there.
So what else do you need to do when you use eye contact?
MAKE HIM SEE YOU – TIP 3: Use your LIPS…
No, not like THAT. I mean, maybe later.
I’m talking about SMILING at him!
In a study done by some wacky scientists, they discovered that women get 400% more interest from men if she just makes eye contact and SMILES at him.
Intuitively, this makes sense. But it makes even more sense if you know how guys work on the inside.
That smile says: C’mon over, I don’t bite. I won’t reject you in front of anyone here, and you’re safe.
Women don’t realize it, but nearly every man carries a DEEP emotional scar from a time when he went to talk to a woman and she did one of the following:
- – Laughed at him
- – Outright rejected him
- – Made a comment that was not only impolite, it was downright abusive
- – Said NO to him in a way that made him feel trashed
And even if the rejection wasn’t THAT bad, it still feels like that to him.
Most guys just put on some really bristly emotional armor to protect himself from ever getting hurt like that again.
Even the guys that are complete jerks, don’t really want to be that way. It’s always a defense mechanism he’s using to keep from feeling that pain again.
FORCE HIM TO PAY ATTENTION TO YOU – TIP 4: Work your body…
Yes, he’s going to be looking you over, from head to toe. If you’re a woman that hasn’t gotten used to this yet, you might want to stop and consider some introspection about why this still bothers you.
Because, yeah, it’s going to happen to you.
It’s not because he’s only seeing you as a “sex object.” (The truth is we ALL see each other as sex objects.) It’s because men long to appreciate beauty with their eyes. And your giving him that moment of bliss is a blessing.
If you get a chance, watch some videos of classy women from older movies. Look at how they work their body language to communicate their femininity.
The way they walk, their mannerisms, the way they communicate their confidence with their words and actions.
You couldn’t ask for a better way to discover the Art of Sexy. And it’s all out there on the internet, or in your Netflix, just waiting for you to find it.
Take a class in dance, or even acting. You’ll learn how to reconnect with your body in a way that will ground your confidence and make you feel AMAZING. You’ll radiate a warm glow that he’ll want to get closer to…
GET HIM INTERESTED IN YOU – TIP 5: Flirt endlessly…
The single best thing you can do for your value in the sexual marketplace is to learn how to flirt with men effectively. Warmly…
Flirting is an art, but it’s one of the easiest arts to learn. All it takes is a bit of patience, and the willingness to let go of your inhibitions.
It’s really all about learning to be a friendlier, less guarded person.
Which is something I think we could all stand to work on.
A lot of women encounter one weenie dude who comes on to her and she proceeds to change her attitude to shut down men by default. One bad apple, and she goes from fun and bubbly to snarky and cold.
Men simply gravitate to flirtiness. We men love flirty girls, because they feel safe to us. We’re not going to get rejected, and we can play around with the energy.
When a woman knows how to flirt, it’s one of the biggest turn-ons for a guy. Even if it leads nowhere, we are happy to play with the energy.
I don’t have the space here to explain all the subtleties of flirting, but I have a great report on what it takes to make a man feel attracted to you and flirt with you.
Do you know what the Romantic Reflex is in a man?
Do you know how to trigger it? How to make him want to sweep you off your feet?
It’s easy to find out – go here
Want to Know How to Make Him Want You? Play His Game.
Make him want you by playing his game.
Unfortunately, these games have become ingrained into dating as we know it, and both men and women play them.
Women play hard-to-get, being flirty but aloof.
Men play the game of ulterior motive. They do one thing (compliment you) to get something completely other (sex).
A game everyone of every age knows, however, is “the chase.”
This is every man’s favorite game.
Men, as women know, like a chase. They’re hunters. Anything that falls right into their lap isn’t fair play. They want something they can go after, something to hunt.
If you’ve ever had a cat, you know how they get when they catch a mouse. They will run after it for hours, and once they have it, they’ll play with it to death. Then they’re not interested anymore.
No, Sexy Lady, I’m not comparing you to that mouse (exactly), but I am illustrating the thrill of that chase for men. Just like the cat, they want a little challenge. If the mouse just cowered in the middle of your kitchen floor, the cat would probably sniff it and then walk away. But as soon as it moves, the chase is on.
So if you want to know how to make him want you, let him chase you.
You need to know how to play this silly little courting ritual without getting caught. The first step to winning this game is understanding your opponent.
This man values your intellect, your strength, and your beauty. He does not expect you to be easy to catch. This turns him on because he anticipates the thrill of the hunt.
A Caveat on How to Make Him Want You Without Being Manipulative
You don’t have to manipulate to get what you want.
Yes, so it seems like I’m encouraging you to play games, and in a way I am, but I want to instruct you on how to do it without being deceptive, conniving, or manipulative. This article isn’t going to tell you to wait 2.3 hours before responding to his text or to go out with other guys to make him jealous.
These are petty games, and you are too old for that BS.
You need to see yourself as the prize that he wants. That takes confidence, so be sure you’re packing plenty. He needs to see that you are worth getting outside of his comfort zone for, worth pursuing.
To do your part, you need to maintain a fine balance between being seen as playing games (because that’s just obnoxious) and folding too easily.
There’s a fine line between a man seeing you as hard-to-get and not being worth the effort to work for. When a woman gives absolutely no signals, no response or no encouragement of his efforts to chase you, the man will give up and pursue another.
If you seem like you’re just playing him, however, he’ll consider you childish and give up. Then of course, if you give in too easily there’s the chance he’ll see you as an easy catch and decide you aren’t high-value enough to hunt.
So now, let’s look at how to make him want you and what you need to do to be that mouse worthy of being chased.
How to Make Him Want You Tip #1: Be Honest…But Never 100% Transparent
Be just a little bit mysterious.
A serious man wants to date a woman, not a girl. He wants someone who knows what she wants and is over playing games.
That being said, you might be tempted to lay it all out on the table. You want him to be your boyfriend, so why shouldn’t you tell him?
Remember that we’re trying to get him to chase you, okay? Frankly, a girl telling a guy that she wants to get serious after just a few dates is going to scare him off.
A better approach in how to make him want you is to hint that you’re available without telling him you’re interested in things maybe developing beyond flirting or a few dates.
Show your interest…just not all of it.
I’m not asking you to lie. In fact, honesty is the best policy when it comes to dating, in my mind. But honesty and pouring out every emotion and thought you have are not the same thing.
Think about it. When you start dating someone, you don’t tell them about how last night’s Indian food had you in the bathroom all night. You don’t tell them that your last boyfriend broke up with you for being too needy.
You’re not lying by keeping these things from a guy…unless he asks you about them point blank.
But you are deciding what level of transparency you will provide. Over time, as you get more serious, you will let him in more. But for now, you’re getting him to chase you, to want to get to that point of 100% transparency.
The key to being honest is to let him know you’re open, but letting him know he’s not completely allowed into your heart and brain. That will make him hunger for the vast wisdom that awaits him there!
How to Make Him Want You Tip #2: Be Yourself…Not What He Wants
Be yourself and he’ll want you even more.
This makes me so sad. So many girls act like carbon copies of some ideal woman they think men want. What they forget is a man is turned on more than anything by a woman who is wholly and completely herself. He isn’t going to chase some woman who is exactly like the girl he met yesterday or the girls he works with all day.
This is happening especially on dating apps. A study by graduate students at Lund University’s School of Economics and Management on authenticity in mobile dating apps found that people were more likely to create profiles that stretched the truth just slightly in order to be more appealing.
They might say they were thinner or that they made more money. Essentially, women — and men as well — put their best foot forward (even if it required lying just a tad) in order to be more attractive to prospective mates.
Look, this might work to get a guy’s attention on a dating app, but what do you expect to happen when you’ve got out a few times?
Him: So tell me about being a pediatric ER doctor. That must be fulfilling work.
Trust me: if you want to know how to make him want you, be your damn self.
In a sea of phonies, he wants the one woman who is standing with her own style. He wants an authentic woman who is too busy with her own life to cater to his every whim.
And if you think you’re…uh… “challenging” as a person, not to worry. He’s not looking for a lady who will agree with everything he says and do whatever he wants. He wants a woman who will push back when she disagrees with him. Who will sometimes put her own needs ahead of his, especially early in dating.
In fact, being a naturally challenging woman is one of the best solutions to how to make him want you. That doesn’t mean picking fights with him. It just means putting yourself first. You don’t wait to respond to his texts; in fact, you are busy all day, so you don’t even see his text until you come home from mountain climbing or saving lives or whatever fabulous thing you do.
How to Make Him Want You Tip #3: Be Independent…But Not Isolated
Your independence is a turn-on for him.
Contrary to what you might think, men aren’t looking for submissive women who are available any time they want them. By being fiercely independent, you show him that, while he’s important to you, there’s a long list of other things that rank higher than him.
Don’t bail on girlfriends to hang out with him.
Don’t stay up late talking to him when you have an early day and need sleep.
Don’t go out with him every single night.
Spend some time apart. Make him miss you. He will enjoy seeing you as your own person and learning about your diverse interests. He’ll be more likely to chase you if you don’t bend over backward to please him.
When you do something interesting, share it with him. Show your enthusiasm for your hobby or job, or whatever passion you have. Let him ask questions and find out about you and what makes you tick.
Now, all that being said, you don’t want to lock him out. For some independent, confident women, it’s easy to come off as cold or even intimidating, so be aware of that.
He wants to feel like you need and want him just a little bit so that he’s got the confidence that his efforts are paying off. So give him little nuggets of satisfaction.
Tell him how much you enjoy spending time with him.
Rearrange plans so you can see him if you haven’t been able to otherwise.
Your independence should be genuine, and it should carry beyond you “snagging” the guy. What I mean is: don’t pretend to be awesome and independent, and then once you’re in a committed relationship, start being needy and overly available.
He’ll feel like you tricked him to win the game. Which you kinda did. So don’t.
How to Make Him Want You Tip #4: Be Engaged…But Not Totally Interested
Be so fabulous that he wants you even more!
There’s a delicate balance to this tip, too. You want to be engaging in conversation and show that you’re a catch, but you never want to give the sign that you want him as much as he wants you.
So…don’t give him those big doe eyes, woman!
Let him think that if you’re this awesome and approachable, you’re probably talking to many other men. Let his mind do all the game playing for you.
If you play it cool and not overly interested, and if you’re doing the independent thing like I taught you in #3, he’ll start wondering exactly what you’re doing every Friday night when you can’t go out with him.
It’s the double standard: he may think he wants to date other women, but as soon as he thinks you are doing the same, he goes ballistic.
It’s that hunter instinct kicking in. He does not — above all else — want another hunter to catch his prey. It will damage his ego and the other hunter will get the spoils.
When pursuing a man you like, if you want to know how to make him want you: a man wants what he can’t have.
He can have any boring, carbon-copy girl out there, but he can’t have you. Give him the opportunity to see how awesome you are while remaining just out of arm’s reach.
Maybe you tell him you can’t go out with him Friday night because you have plans, but stop by to drop off something at his house (looking effin’ fabulous) on your way to your mysterious plans.
When you’re on the phone with your guy, listen and be interested in what he’s saying, but just before the conversation starts to wind down and he tells you he’s got to go, be the one to end the conversation. Probably you have important things to do (um, like catching up on Black Mirror).
How to Make Him Want You Tip #5: Want Him…But Don’t Need Him
Be happy on your own, and he will chase you.
As soon as you admit to yourself that you’re having strong feelings for this guy, or even falling in love with him, you risk losing this game. If he smells your need, he may give up the chase if he’s not hooked.
You may be known for making proclamations of love with past boyfriends, but slow your roll until you’re sure that he is hooked. A man wants to be wanted, not needed, at this point.
Being wanted makes him feel sexy and desirable. Being needed makes him feel like you’re trying to trap him and move him into a relationship he’s not even sure that he wants.
Even if you are starting to have serious affection for this guy, realize that you don’t need him — or any man — to be happy. You are happy and whole completely by yourself. Having a man in your life is like icing on the cake. He can brighten your life, but he never ever should be your reason for living.
So get straight with your feelings internally, and don’t share them as you work through them.
On the outside, give him affection and show that you want him, but bar yourself from bleeding your love for him all over the place. You have a better chance of him falling for you if you ease into it and let him think it was his great idea to fall for you.
How to Make Him Want You Tip #6: Don’t Let Him Know You’re Onto His Games
Be patient as he plays his games.
He may deliberately not respond to your texts…
Go out with other women to see how you react…
Not stay the night after having sex at your place…
He’ll do things that will make you crazy inside, but showing it is the last thing you want to do. Instead, acknowledge to yourself that this dude is playing games to get a reaction out of you. To see if he needs to weed you out from being a possible match for him.
The woman who demands faster texting response, who kicks up a storm when he disappoints her…that’s not a girl he’s going to chase for long.
On the other hand, the woman who seems unaffected by his reindeer games is the one that will get his attention.
Why doesn’t she notice my antics? Does she not care? Is she busy dating that dude that texted her the other day? Is he beefier than me?
Part of his chase will involve his own subterfuge, and it won’t be as subtle as your own. You will know right away that he is playing games, but if you want to master how to make him want you, ignore these games.
Proceed with your own objective: to get him to chase you until he realizes how much he wants you…and not just for sport.
How to Make Him Want You Tip #7: Let Him Ask if You’re Dating Other People
Let him wonder if you’re dating other people.
I know this is a common concern for women: they want to know if their guy is seeing other people, and so they ask too early and freak him out.
I know how much you want security in knowing this guy is only seeing you, but if you’re not yet sleeping together, hold off on that question.
If you are sleeping together, I think it’s completely valid to establish before you sleep together that you will only sleep with someone you’re monogamous with. This gives him the clear message that you aren’t out for a hookup, and if he is, he needs to keep looking.
Otherwise, asking if he’s dating anyone else can seem like you’re pushing for commitment, even if you’re not.
Instead, let him wonder. It doesn’t hurt to leave your phone out if you’re getting a text from a male friend so that he wonders who the eff Todd is. You don’t have to tell him you’re going out with the girls this weekend; let him imagine that Todd the Buff Beefcake is taking you salsa dancing.
His imagination will help move him in the right direction toward making him want you more.
1) Body Language: How to Tell if a Guy Likes You
One of the easiest ways to determine if a guy likes you is to pay attention to the way his body moves.
If he is sending you some classic signals, he could be interested. Is he looking at you a lot? Is there something on your face?
Check, and if you are clear, it might be that he thinks you are cute. Is he licking his lips and swaying his hips? You know what that means: men always have sex on the brain.
Does he smile at you and gesture at you? Could be the real thing.
If you are standing near a guy and he is interested, he’ll lean into you, want to be near you, and make eye contact on the regular to try to let you know he is interested.
He could also just come right out and say it, but that is highly unlikely. So stick with deciphering body language and some of these other tricks to tell if a guy likes you for sure.
2) Let His Voice Do the Talking
When you have a chance to engage in a conversation with potential Mr. Right, pay attention to how he talks to you.
Does he ask questions to show he is interested in learning more about you, or is he just talking about himself… non-stop?
Does he seemed interested in what you are saying and does he engage in the conversation or is he just checking his phone in between drinks of his beer? If it’s all eyes on you, then he’s interested.
Keep in mind that if he is constantly talking himself up, he’s probably trying to impress you.
And if he’s sounding nervous, then he probably likes you. Some people will try to hide their nervousness by appearing aloof and disinterested.
If you think this might be the case with your guy, try this:
Get a little closer to him to see how he reacts. If he doesn’t budge and even tries to get closer, he definitely likes you.
If he isn’t interested, he’ll likely step back and try to keep his personal space.
3) How He Responds to Touch
If you reach out to grab his hand or playfully touch his shoulder, does he recoil or pull away? It might be that he is nervous, but it could also be that he isn’t interested in you.
Don’t fret. You can rely on other body language and the way he treats you to determine if he likes you.
Some guys who are interested will try to touch you for any reason, such as hugging you when they meet you.
He might also try what the Pick Up Artist community call “kino”. This means touching you to build rapport.
This can involve things like touching your hand when you tell a funny joke or putting their arm around you like you’re their little sister.
Shy guys can be difficult to read in this situation, and when you touch them they may appear startled and unsure of how to respond.
That’s okay. Watch how they react after that incident to truly gauge their interest. Don’t rely on how he responds to touch alone.
As mentioned before, watch out for the players as well. They’re usually very experienced at building rapport through touching, so observe how they treat other women to truly gauge their interest.
4) Is He Acting Weird?
If a guy is into you, he is going to start to act a little different around you.
He might stumble over his words or try to show off in front of you.
If he is paying attention to you and ignoring his friends or seems to be acting differently than he used to act around you, it could be that he sees something he didn’t see in you before.
This kind of weirdness will usually come out in terms of nervous energy. Perhaps they’ll sweat a little more, or they’ll take more deep breathes.
It can also play out in terms of banter and jokes. If they’re constantly telling jokes or playfully teasing you, then they’re probably interested in you.
Don’t let it weird you out – just keep playing it cool and he’ll come around. Once he settles down and realizes that you are into him too, he’ll relax.
5) He Shows Up Where You Are
If you mentioned you like skiing on weekends and suddenly he is showing up on the slopes, there’s a good chance he’s into you.
If you happen to stop by the party you were both invited to and headed straight to your location – unless you are standing by the beer – he is probably into you.
If he’s following you around the party, trying to strike up a conversation, congratulations, he likes you.
6) Notice his eye contact
One of the main reasons a guy will look at you is that he likes you.
He may be trying to get direct eye contact with you, or he may be shy and will quickly turn his head away when he catches eye contact with you.
So keep this in mind:
- If he maintains eye contact with you, he’s definitely interested.
- If his eyes wander to your mouth, he’s interested.
- If he looks away quickly when you catch him looking, he’s probably interested and shy. This is especially important to remember. If his head turns ridiculously quickly, he is likely shy. Have patience and you’ll get more opportunities for eye contact!
- On the other hand, if he breaks eye contact with you and continues gazing around the room, then he may not be interested in you.
- If you don’t like the guy, break eye contact and continue scanning the room.
- If he tells a joke or says something funny, his eyes will glance towards you to see if you’ve laughed.
7) Is he complimenting you?
Compliments are a great way to gauge a guy’s interest. Of course, many guys can give compliments when they don’t really mean it if they want to get you in the sack.
But if they truly like you, they’ll probably start complimenting you on subtle things that you may not be aware of.
It could be unique tidbits about your personality, or they could notice subtle changes in your hairstyle.
In fact, sometimes it may not even be a compliment, but the fact that they’ve noticed that you’ve changed your hair style or used different make-up.
If they notice, it means they’re paying attention to you and they probably like you.
Also, not many guys are great at giving compliments, so keep your ears out and notice when he says something that could even be remotely viewed as a compliment. If you’ve noticed that he doesn’t really compliment others, then he probably likes you.
Does he playfully punch your arm?
This may be a surprising one, but it’s actually a common signal that a guy likes you.
It’s a guy’s “manly way” of building rapport with you without being too forward.
If you laugh with him when he punches you, it’ll give him a signal that you’re interested as well.
If you don’t like him punching you, but you like him, then playfully laugh and say “ow that hurt!” He likely won’t do it again but your smile and playfulness will indicate that you like him.
If you enjoy the banter, playfully punch him back. That could really assist in building the sexual tension!
9) Is he mirroring your actions?
Imitating one’s actions is generally a sign that he respects and admires you. It’s also something that happens subconsciously.
Here’s what to look out for:
– Is his energy level mirroring yours? This can include things like speaking at a similar pace to you or leaning back on the chair when you’re leaning back.
– Is he starting to use similar language to you? This can include the same shortened words or slang.
– Is he copying some your mannerisms like touching your hair or using your hands when speaking?
If you can say yes to one of these, then he likes you.
10) Is he chatting to you on social media apps or messaging apps?
This is actually a great indicator because when we’re online we can literally do whatever we want to do.
If he is taking the time to chat to you, that means he is spending his personal time on you.
However, watch out for guys that just send you one word responses. This means they’re not making much of an effort in their messages to you and probably don’t like you the way that you like them.
If their responses are thoughtful and they’re responding back quickly, it means they’re willing to dedicate a lot of time to you. Time is a great indicator that they like you.
11) What is he doing with his face?
There are a million and one ways to tell if a guy likes you just by looking at his face.
For example, he might lick his lips when he talks to you. This is a classic sign that he is attracted to you and wants to do more than just look at you.
If his eyes are bright and wide and his pupils are dilated, you can bet that he is thinking about you and what the rest of the date might bring for the two of you.
His eyes tell you what his body is thinking. He is smiling at you, not in a creepy-stop-smiling-now kind of way, but a sweet and attentive way.
He might be flashing his pearly whites at you so that you know he’s neat and clean, which men think is important to women, which it is, but it’s really a biological “look at what I have” thing.
His eyebrows will move up and down and his facial gestures will be attentive.
Finally, all eyes are on you. If he’s into you and wants to see more of you, he won’t be able to take his eyes off you.
And his eyes are going to be locked on yours.
Of course, if his eyes are darting all over the place and he’s distracted by whatever is around you, there’s a good chance he’s not interested.
12) Is he leaning in?
Guys do some pretty strange things with their bodies when they are attracted to a woman.
They don’t even realize it half the time, so it’s the job of the woman to interpret these signals as a sign to move in for a better look.
First, he’ll lean into the conversation if he likes you. The space between you and him will get smaller and smaller as the conversation goes on.
He’ll lead with his pelvis, meaning he’ll lean from side to side, stick one a hip, put his hand on his hip to take up more space and make himself look powerful.
This is an age-old power pose that men use to show they are strong and capable, and of course, the pelvic thrust is just a roundabout way of getting you to look in the direction of his junk.
On the other hand, if he is moving his lower region away from you, or if he has crossed his legs and creates a sort of barrier between you and him with his legs, he’s likely not interested in you.