Sometimes I find myself unable to stop my thoughts, and this keeps me awake through the night, impedes my focus, and cuts into my time talking with my children because my thoughts are elsewhere.
You arenât alone if you find yourself like this either. Many people are unsure of how to get their minds quiet so they can focus on the important things.
Here are my five exercises that always help me to relax my mind and get done what I need to get done and be where I am needed!
2. Remember that whatever you pay attention to grows in your mind.
If you focus on what’s going wrong in your life—especially if you see it as “bad luck” you can do nothing about—it will seem blacker and more malevolent.
In a short time, you’ll become so convinced that everything is against you that you’ll notice more and more instances where this appears to be true. As a result, you will drown yourself in negative energy and almost certainly stop trying, convinced that nothing you can do will improve your prospects.
Not long ago, a reader (I’ll call her Kelly) has shared with me about how frustrated she felt and how unlucky she was. Kelly’s an aspiring entrepreneur. She had been trying to find investors to invest in her project. It hadn’t been going well as she was always rejected by the potential investors. And at her most stressful time, her boyfriend broke up with her. And the day after her breakup, she missed an important opportunity to meet an interested investor. She was about to give up because she felt that she’d not be lucky enough to build her business successfully.
It definitely wasn’t an easy time for her. She was stressful and tired. But it wasn’t bad luck that was playing the role.
Fatalism feeds on itself until people become passive “victims” of life’s blows. The “losers” in life are those who are convinced they will fail before they start anything; sure that their “bad luck” will ruin any prospects of success.
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They rarely notice that the true reasons for their failure are ignorance, laziness, lack of skill, lack of forethought, or just plain foolishness—all of which they could do something to correct, if only they would stop blaming other people or “bad luck” for their personal deficiencies.
Your attention is under your control. Send it where you want it to go. Starve the negative thoughts until they die.
I explained to Kelly that to improve her fortune and have “good luck”, first decide that what happens is nearly always down to her; then try to focus on what works and what turns out well, not the bad stuff.
Then Kelly tried to review her current situation objectively. She realized that she only needed a short break for herself — from work and her just broken-up relationship. She really needed some time to clear up her mind before moving on with her work and life. When she got her emotions settled down from her heartbreak, she started to work on improving her business’ selling points and looked for new investors that are more suitable.
A few months later, she told me that she finally found two investors who were really interested in her project and would like to work with her to grow the business. I was really glad that she could take back control of her destiny and achieved what she wanted.
Your “fate” really does depend on the choices that you make. When random events happen, as they always will, do you choose to try to turn them to your advantage or just complain about them?
Many people have been through a lot in their lifetime. Negative seeds have been sown into their hearts and as they grow up these negative seeds begin to grow and get stronger and more difficult to get rid of. Its almost like planting an Oak tree seed, and leaving it to grow: it will grow and become big and strong, and the roots go so deep into the ground it is almost impossible to uproot. If you follow these simple steps you can easily clear your mind and soul from negativity but you have to do it with an open heart, open mind and a spirit filled with hope.
1 Find faith in yourself. It is a good idea to get to know yourself above all. Go within, pay attention to what goes on in your inner dialog of your mind. Can you see your life as a reflection of a situation to learn from? This is a time to understand, rather than be understood. 2 JUST LET IT GO! People have the right to happiness (of course, that also includes you!), release that which no longer serves the highest interest of your Soul. 3. Let your Soul influence you along the path you should walk along. 4. Start to think more positively, and feed your mind and Soul with positive words, positive people and positive things. But don’t bury the negative thoughts in your heart where they mature into hatred and contempt. Share how you feel, with someone you trust. 5 If you feel weak or angry, go for walks at sunrise/sunset and breathe in the fresh air. 6 Take 5 minutes out of everyday to just lie down and reflect.7 Try more physical/spiritual methods to calm down, such as meditation, yoga, pilates, etc. 8 Before you start working on your goals, read positive affirmations or listen to your favorite music. Do something to get your brain into a good, happy, positive mind set.
- Concentrate your mind to think positive thoughts.
- Remember that even an unpleasant event can lead to a great lesson learned, which in turn, turns that negative into a POSITIVE!
- If you find yourself getting into a bad mood, stop for a second to catch an emotional breath of fresh air. Turn on your mental cogs and think of the situation objectively. Is this situation really worth your time and space?
- Laughter is best medicine So laugh at yourself and your bad experiences.
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Helping Yourself to Ease Your And Clear Your Mind
There are many things you can do to calm your thoughts, but these are the five that always prove to be the best help for me. I want to share them with you, so letâs get to it!
Meditation is an exercise that not only helps your body to relax and put your mind at ease, but it also simulates running for your body and sleep.
Meditating for 20 minutes will give your body the feeling of sleeping for 8 hours. This provides you with a well-rested body and provides you energy to get through your day.
Meditating for 5 minutes gives your body the same feelings as if you had run for 25 minutes. You wonât become fit or improve the shape of your outward appearance, but it is heart healthy and lowers your risks of heart disease and stress.
#2: Physical Activity
Itâs suggested to get at least 30-minutes to 1-hour of exercise a day to be healthy and to work towards a goal of becoming or staying fit. Aerobics, dance, cycling, or working out are all excellent options to keep your mind clear and quiet.
Itâs hard to want to do physical activity if the day is gloomy or you donât want to leave the house. You can always get exercise programs to watch or use an indoor trainer.
You can even choose to spend this time walking or jogging with your kids or with a pet. However, you get your exercise, own it, and make sure you reap the benefits of exercise and clear your mind.
#3: Deep Breathing
Deep breathing is a simple tool to use when you have nothing else to turn to when you want your mind cleared. Itâs best to deep breathe between 2-4 minutes to get the full calming effect on your mind and body.
Deep breathing requires a quiet location and a small amount of time. Start by closing your eyes, deep breath in, deep breath out. Repeat the process for a few minutes. Once you finish, open your eyes on an exhale. Begin your task or get back to your life.
Yoga requires your mind to be focused on the position you need to be in, so it instantly calms and clears your mind. Yoga starts with basic positions for beginners so they can learn basic concepts and positions for more complicated poses.
As you begin to advance in yoga, it will require more and more of your focus and concentration, removing your mind from constantly thinking or worrying to focus on how your body needs to be positioned.
Yoga is an activity that you can include your whole family in. It will benefit children who are hyperactive and will help children regain their focus in school and on tasks they need to accomplish.
#5: Write it Out
It never hurts to write your thoughts down. Journaling is a way for people to write how theyâre feeling, what theyâre thinking, their ideas, and even drawings, without having to dwell on the problem.
So, write, doodle, color all over the page and get out whatever is in your mind. If the writing is something, you want to keep, hold on to it, otherwise, throw it away and let the thoughts go with it.
If youâre a writer or creator, you may want to keep the writing for ideas later, however, if the paper is full of negative emotions, worried thoughts, and stressful information, you want to let those feelings go with the paper.
Clear Mind, Happy You
Having a head full of thoughts and ideas can be bothersome, especially when you would just like it to be quiet and calming. Try these exercises and see if they can help clear your active mind for the time you need. I enjoy physical activity, meditating, and yoga with my children. Itâs a sight to see when your kids are doing yoga with you!
What are some ways you find help with clearing your mind? Do you ever have issues with the same thoughts reoccurring? Have you tried talking to someone?
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“Dance like nobody’s watching” is one of those things that people say, but nobody ever does. Mostly because dancing tends to be a social activity and it’s almost impossible to pretend that nobody’s watching when there are people watching. I don’t dance like nobody’s watching. I dance when nobody’s watching, which is entirely different. For non-dancers and the terminally self-conscious and un-graceful like myself, dancing alone is a really strange exercise in physical liberation. You don’t realize how much of the time we humans spend trying to be as normal as possible until you actually try to be weird. I’m not generally used to moving my hips, for instance. I don’t really have hips, I have love handles that I usually do everything possible to not move. But dancing, wiggling, and moving muscles that I don’t usually move at all is a strangely difficult process. It takes a lot of focus to clear your mind of all of your subconscious self-correcting. Don’t think about how goofy you look, just do it!
These methods aren’t going to work for everybody, but I’m always happiest when I feel like I’ve been productive. Undertaking a creative activity, like writing or playing music, makes me feel accomplished and also relaxed. Next time you feel like you need to let go and clear your mind, give one of these activities a try!
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